American girl in an African world

As you know I've been in Berlin, Germany for the past week for my cousin's wedding. Because my cousin is like me in the sense that both of our fathers are Cameroonian and our mothers are both from "the west." Her wedding should be beautiful because she is tying in both Western and African traditions. And no, there will be no jumping of the broom because the Bangwa people have never heard of it.
While I have been here, I have been learning a lot more about my culture and traditions. I mean I already knew that for the most part the women do the cooking and cleaning for big events. But I think I have washed more dishes here than I have in my entire life. There is also a lot of women talk in the kitchen. At first I didn't catch on to the talk because it was in pidgin, a combination of English and African dialects, and they were talking really fast. My pidgin is not as fluent, but I have gotten a lot better. So lately they have been sharing their wisdoms with me, mostly about men and getting married.
OKAY! Everyone who knows me that marriage is not in my plan for at least another 10yrs. Talk about an uproar! All the ladies tell me its in my best interest to get married soon. Don't put off marriage to someone you love because you can go to school and have a man. So I say, "I don't have a boyfriend." Talk about another uproar. You are smart, you are young, you are pretty, why not? I feel this is the international question of the year. And I am learning that "because" is not a good answer for people anymore. But talking to these women, I realize that I am WAY more American than I am Cameroonian as far as culture goes. But before my girls start going off about women's liberation and the such let me quote my auntie Teresa. "Couples nowadays in Cameroon carry equal load. Thats good. They still uphold tradition. Some people desire things to change and to exist as it does in the west, but more of us love it the way it is. We are happy."